Let’s talk, shall we?
Disclaimer: This is going to be a more heavy subject than usual, but I hope you’ll continue reading, as I think it’s quite important. In the end, I hope this post will act as a basis for discussion…one in which I hope you’ll participate.
There are two main points I want to talk about, but the two are connected with each other. I’ll start with the less serious of the two.
It has been my observation that when women compliment one another, we (myself included) say, “Oh, you look so beautiful” – or some form of that. Well, yes, that does seem really sweet. And for sure, it’s better than not saying anything at all. But one word in that phrase has thrown me for a bit of a loop…the word “look.” Maybe I’m completely over-analyzing this, and there’s a great chance I am, but why can’t we say, “Oh, you are so beautiful.” Why do we have to make our compliment so temporary by using the word “look?” Is it an underlying jealousy? What is it? Or, am I, as I said before, completely over-thinking this? Nevertheless, it’s going to be my goal to start trying to use the second phrase more often – “You are so beautiful.” Honestly, what woman couldn’t use that confidence boost, especially because if you’re saying this, you obviously mean it. Does anyone else want to join with me in my efforts to do this? Oh, and perhaps I should add that because my own observations led me to these conclusions, I could be wrong…perhaps many of you do already say, “You are so beautiful.” If that’s the case, you rock!
This point leads into my next discussion point. It has to do with eating disorders.
Let me start out by saying this: What woman hasn’t had low self-confidence at one point or another relating to her appearance?
Exactly. I think everyone has.
And secondly, if you know anyone or are yourself, either now or in the past, one with an eating disorder, I hope I do not offend you in any way. I don’t think I will, but I just want to put that out there…I don’t mean to hurt anyone with this post. Obviosuly, this is a touchy subject, and one I found a bit hard to write about.
But back to the point: Yesterday, I learned that a friend of mine seems to have an eating disorder.
I had suspected she had an unhealthy relationship with food for years, but never did I actually think she would go quite so far – or, maybe, I was in denial about it. To be clear, I don’t know exactly what’s going on with her…I don’t know that she has full-blown anorexia or bulimia or even what she does have. But I do know one thing…I’m scared for her. She assured me yesterday that these problems were in the past, but I can’t help doubting this. She demonstrated some behaviors yesterday while we were eating that I don’t think support her claim.
I guess in this part of the post, I really need your advice. I’m really unsure of what to do/what not to do. While this is her business, I don’t want to stand by and do nothing if it could mean the difference between her getting worse and her healing.
Do I just do my best to support her?
What do I do?
Again, I’m scared. I’m just so unsure.
I’m sorry for this much more weighted discussion, especially on a Saturday morning, but I needed to get all of this off of my chest.
Please, if any of you have any comments/suggestions/anything to add to either of my two discussion points, please do. If you don’t feel comfortable leaving a comment, email me (firstname.lastname@example.org). As I said in the beginning of this post, I hope this post can be a catalyst for a discussion…and that means a conversation with all of you.
Thanks, and have a great weekend. Stay strong, all of you!